Rebellious Woman

8 Mar

NEWSFLASH! I’ve updated my SALE page with latex and some really gorgeous one-off pretty things. ❤

Wow. Last week’s post got a MONTH’S viewings in just one day. I’ve had so many supportive comments and messages that I felt quite overwhelmed (in a good way).
Obviously, this blog is mostly a lifestyle and art/modelling blog but before I move on to other subjects, I just want to address a few of the recurring questions I received:

1) Vasectomies are not as easy as you said.
I’ve heard mixed experiences about vasectomies. It varies wildly depending on other factors like home country and age but in general, it is easier for a man to be sterilised than a woman.

3) Why not pay for it?
Several reasons but here are my two main ones: I’m not in a financial position to do so, most importantly. Secondly, when IVF is available on the NHS* then sterilisation should be too. It comes back to the same thing: if the choice to have children is funded (including the medical procedures that come with pregnancy and birth) then the choice not to should be equally valid- especially when in my case there are extra reasons to support this choice.

*4) IVF is not funded for everyone.
I mentioned in my last post that doctors warn obese women about the risks associated with pregnancy. I was referring to a pregnancy without medical assistance- however, a couple of women struggling to obtain IVF mailed to say that funding for IVF has its restrictions too, which is very true.
A very wise commenter responded perfectly: we are fighting the same battle against a system that is not giving us the results we would like. Just because we want different results to each other, does not mean we should be fighting amongst ourselves. ❤

5) I’m being selfish as this is not a life threatening procedure.
Neither are the many, many NHS-funded cosmetic procedures carried out every day. I agree that things like mental health are under funded and that funds are distributed unfairly but for the purposes of my blog, I was talking about sterilisation. Other issues are for other posts.

6) But it’s PERMANENT! So is having a child.

I will just repeat that the vast majority of responses on all the platforms this blog was posted on were positive, so thankyou for that. So far, no news from the hospital so lets move on for now.


The above quote has been attributed to many, many people but it was historian Laurel Thatcher Ulrich who said it, in an article about Purital funeral services!

Today was International Womens’ Day and I spent it tasting organic chocolate, painting a mural and listening to a fascinating talk about foraging and herbalism at a new yoga studio near me! I’m a slave to herbal tea and swear by nettle for healthy hair. Oh, and lots and lots of water (to drink).
One of the activities we could do was write on a post-it note something that made us proud to be women. Initially, I couldn’t think of a damn thing. Not that being a woman is something I don’t like, just that few things I do are made extra interesting by the fact that I am a woman. Then I came home (with the blank post-it) and did a quiz I found. It told me that I had done eight illegal things today- for example, I wore trousers in public, which would get me 40 lashes in Yemen (I think). In some countries, a women is counted as half a witness in court. HALF a witness.
If you’d like to take the test, it’s here:
So I’m proud to be a woman because I am fighting for change and speaking up for my fellow women who are not yet allowed a voice- and I’m proud to see others doing the same.
Yay! I hate blank post-it notes. 😛

I’ve been reading about awesome women today. As most of my heroes are in books and films, I particularly liked this article:
Yes, fiction is fiction, but some elements are reflections of reality and seeing the multiple female heroes in recent films and books does make me happy. As a writer myself, I try and write characters that I would want to read about and that I would have liked growing up. Maybe someday you’ll be able to have a read… 😉

And things could not be more fitting- I’ve been featured in Femme Rebelle magazine! The photos are by the awesome Gary Clutterbuck and the outfit is by Lady Allura’s latex. I did the hair and make-up.


As I’m a sleepy lady now and need to find a new series to start (finished House of Cards in 1.5 days), I will sign off this this pretty song with a lovely video. ❤


p.s. A non-spoiler childfree House of Cards moment I saw today. As I knew I would be posting this blog tonight, it was just too perfect! 😛

The blonde woman is Claire and…

7 Responses to “Rebellious Woman”

  1. Christhegoth March 9, 2016 at 5:57 am #

    I’m actually digging that dress, even though it’s plastic. Blimey! 🙂

    As for the medical stuff I don’t see why they would deny you funding unless it was a Votes thing ( the NHS is commanded by politicians after all ). Babies usually win votes etc.

    In Croydon they’re not happy with IVF stuff ( how offering it is mandatory ), but can’t 100% defund it ( due to how offering it is mandatory ).

    As someone who had a major fear of pregnancy myself I totally get your argument. I angle towards mutual-masturbation & toys to keep it interesting. You can’t be short of suitors up your way, so look for one of ‘us’?

    Just my tuppence. I hope you get a solution.

    • roswellivory March 10, 2016 at 6:33 pm #

      Thanks yes, I like the dress too.

      However, I don’t like the TMI about your sexual preferences. Please keep it off my blog.

      • christhegoth March 10, 2016 at 11:04 pm #

        You might have missed the point I was making, but duly noted.

      • christhegoth March 11, 2016 at 8:54 am #

        Just to clarify ( as I have a bit more time now ):

        What I meant was thus:

        I have a major thing against pregnancy ( in my case sourced in fear ). So I adapted to make sure it won’t happen.

        It’s the same style of sex lesbians use, so isn’t a big leap. You are a TG girl after all, so I figured you could handle this subject.

        You could adapt whilst you saved up to cover that bill. That’s it, that’s all I meant on that one.


        As for the suitor bit I do know that some men can be too pushy on ejaculating inside the lady. If the boy is too pushy I figured you’d be strong enough to push him away and get a better one. That’s it, that’s all I meant on that one.

        No I was not trying to chat you up ( I know how jumpy TG people can get at times, as they get targeted by so many pervs ).

        I hope that clears the air.


        Christian, who is definitely looking forward to the Apocalypse fashion showing up as I have just shifted to Carl McCoy outlander in my look.

      • christhegoth March 15, 2016 at 8:07 am #

        Oh yes:

        I offered to meet you in a neutral place a while ago. To clarify I was simply being friendly, as you had mentioned on your blog that you did not have many friends.

        In reality the way you think is pretty cool. Hence the offer. I’m Post-rock Apocalyptic as well after all.

        I am aware of the TG rule on that one ( chatting up the models ), so thought I’d just clarify.

        Again, I hope that clears the air 🙂

  2. garyclutterbuck March 9, 2016 at 8:38 am #

    Reblogged this on Gary Clutterbuck Photography.


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