How To Be A Man

15 May

I’ve been re-reading Caitlin Moran’s “How To Be A Woman”, which is a feminist commentary on life which manages to include both mothers and childfree woman. And it’s bloody hilarious.
I was once asked to make a man out of a drunk idiot’s squirming pimply friend. At the time I said something rude but now I think about it, what a wonderful suggestion!
Here you go, friend of the red-eyed hollering tit on Prince Of Wales Road five years ago: this is a belated guide to being a man:

- Don’t laugh along when your friends are catcalling and whistling at a girl.
– Don’t slap your misogynistic, cheating friend on the back and call him a ‘legend‘.
– If you see a woman crying on the bus, ask quietly if she’s okay or if there‘s anything you can do. Yelling “cheer up love- it might never happen” does not help.
– Hold doors open for people- this isn’t anti-feminist, it is common decency.
– Being nice to a woman does not give you the right to demand sex. Sometimes people value your friendship too much to risk screwing it up in that way, so be nice for the sake of being nice.
– If you have a girlfriend, find out what she likes. Those generic things that ‘all women like’ show zero effort. (Unless you know for a fact that she wants red roses and chocolates).
– You don’t need money to make someone feel special and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Sometimes, just giving your time and attention is all that’s needed.
– Recognise that you deserve the same treatment and respect! Relationships are about being good to each other.
– Understand that a woman’s clothing says nothing about her sexual availability- she did not dress for you and is not ‘asking for it’.
– “Excuse me, I just wanted to say I think you look lovely. Have a nice day.” This sentence (said without leering) may get you a smile, which is more than mumbling “you’re hot” will ever do.
– Try to keep your relationships with friends, lovers and family healthy but if it is time to let go, accept it without trash talking. Sometimes you’ve done all you can.
– Being gay is not a bad thing, or a good insult. You are no less of a man and neither is your gay friend.
– Self-doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will. Dream big or small- as long as you dream, that’s all that matters.

You’ll probably spend your entire life learning how to be a man- that’s what new experiences are for- but the above points are a good place to start.

R x
p.s. Here is me looking thoughtful, wearing my own clothes in my favourite place (a woodland), photographed by Pirate Photography


Musing Maenad

1 May

Blessed be! It’s Beltane today- the pagan celebration of love and blossoming! It is said to be one of two days in which the veil between our world and the Otherworld is thinnest. Look at this fairyworld- it’s one of the locations I visited in Scotland. :)


If it is true that our universe is infinite, then there are an infinite number of possibilities out there. I like to think that on some plane of our existence, the rustlings and swayings of the woodland are made by things other than birds and squirrels…

I’ve had a lovely few days catching up with some of my friends- both international, and just very busy. On Monday, I went for afternoon tea in Piccadilly with jet-setters Ian And Shae and purple-haired Swedes Malin and Thomas.
On Tuesday I visited a beautiful tea shop for scones with Ivory Flame, Madame Bink, and Major the dachsund- who I do not get to see often enough! So much love to all of my friends. :)

During my shoot with Greeneye photography in February, I made a Maenad-inspired outfit. Maenads were traditionally crazed wine-drinking followers of the god Bacchus, running around in ecstatic frenzy while ripping things up, but I like C.S. Lewis’s version (fierce, wild women having a celebration).

Here’s one in a quiet riverside musing session having finished her wine…

I made the entire outfit myself, including the headdress. I can’t wait to make more- the material is sooo beautiful!





I’m writing a piece about love, purity culture and sex which is opening my eyes to some interesting world customs, and if you haven’t already found my piece for Kinkly Magazine about sexiness then here it is:
And speaking of sexy, I have taken delivery of the most GORGEOUS latex outfit by Dawnamatrix (one of my favourite designers and well worth a look.) And it’s all mine as this one is not on loan- hooray! Would you like a sneak peek? ;)


I’ve just had a sudden influx of bookings from photographers wanting to take advantage of the beautiful weather- which I always look forward to. If you’d like the chance to book me, get in touch as soon as possible because once the flowers go, they’re gone for this year. (And then we’re onto the summer meadows, hay bales and turning leaves again).
As certain obligations are keeping me in the country, I’m enjoying taking myself around the locations I don‘t often reach. (Good news for you in Yorkshire, Leicester, Hull, Isle of Wight and Cork!)

As it’s grey and raining, I’m going to enjoy photos and art inspired by nature while having a coffee and mid-morning snack of dark chocolate. I hope you have a lovely May Day! :)


p.s. Nooooo! I was only watching a Bob Hoskins film* the other night when I commented about how sad it was that he’d died… and then remembered I was talking about Pete Postlethwaite. Now I hear that Bob Hoskins really has died! I’m so sorry, Bob Hoskins- I didn’t mean to… :S
On that note, Doomsday is a fantastic film and if you think otherwise, go and sit in the corner and think about what you’ve done. Mediaeval knights vs. Glaswegian cannibal punks vs. the police… with a virus? (Oh, and Bob Hoskins.) Hell yes.

I Roam Around around around…

24 Apr

Did you know I’m actually Scottish? I was born in Aberdeen but left as a small child so I don’t have the accent. (I’m very VERY English-sounding). Still, whenever I visit, I feel as though I’m home. I spot wildlife without even trying and there are mountains.
I’ve been in Edinburgh for the past few days and am now catching up on my e-mails while watching The Cabin in the Woods, which is hilarious. I didn’t get an Easter as I was working, but I came home to some lovely Green and Blacks mini bars. :)

This trip reminded me how much I love my crazy job:
- Day one: I shot in the most fairytale-ish location I have seen outside of Sweden; specks of forest dust filtering through trees, carpets of celandine and moss so soft I cartwheeled across it.
- Day two: I posed for an artist high above the city in a monument I didn’t even know you could climb!! It was a Gothic theme and I felt like Maleficent’s sister surrounded by gargoyles and archways in my own tower! During the shoot, I got spotted by a beautiful teal-haired fan, who took the time to come and say hello. It was lovely to meet you, Sarah- I hope you enjoyed the city! :)
- Day three: I worked with two photographers (both lovely) on some boudoir. I’m getting booked for boudoir a lot recently and I really enjoy making myself up like a vintage film star. I’m going to invest in some new wigs so I can really change my vintage looks.
- Day four: I was in the same studio with a different photographer and got the chance to experiment with nude poses and throw diaphanous material around. It’s a nude model staple which I really love; you can’t predict the results as fabric has a mind of its own!
- Day off: I took myself and a picnic to Burntisland to look for seals. I didn’t find any that day but I sat on a rock watching beautiful seabirds flit around as the tide came in, and then went back to town for a bite to eat and a scribble in the Elephant House Cafe (where JK Rowling wrote Harry Potter).

I’m pretty terrible photographer but my phone is an okay camera so we balance each other out! Here are some of my snaps:


“I wish I could turn and live with animals; they are so placid and self-contained”.* I do enjoy meeting and talking to new people, which is something modelling means I get to do- but at times I am an antisocial loner and would rather be on a hill watching buzzards circle without another human in sight. It’s so much easier to do in Scotland, which means if I need to get myself lost for a bit, I can do so and return to the world a little calmer. When I next tour, I’d love to go North and look for golden eagles, pine martens (even David Attenborough has never seen a wild one!!) and the two resident pods of orcas (killer whales).

I’m now planning my next visit Northward to Pirate Photography, who took the pictures below:
You may notice I’m in pants but no top- this is because I have re-evaluated my modelling levels to reflect that ‘topless’ does not always mean ‘lad’s mag glamour’ and my rule on the latter is still very much in place. (I have no problem looking sexy, but will not do or wear anything that I feel is degrading to myself. I will not pretend to pull down my knickers, suck my thumb, squish my breasts together etc etc etc). 
Anyway, I realised I hadn’t posted any good old fetish for a while! Here is a Zivity teaser for one of my most popular sets of all time. If you’d like to see the whole set, it’s only about $2 and you can access it here:

Photographer: Pirate Photography
Pants: Lux Tenebrae
Make-up: me


I’ve got to dash as I have e-mails from you all to reply to! ;) but I hope you all had a lovely Easter, whatever religion (or not) you have.


* quote from Walt Whitman. Not to be confused with Walter White. ;)

p.s. Do you follow my Tumblr? I get thousands of views a month here but only 400 followers on there! You get three new photos and some writing every week! I also answer your questions.

Mayday Mayday!

16 Apr

Okay, it’s not that bad, but I am living on dry land again as my poor little houseboat has a hole in her! I got to drive her for the first time in beautiful sunny weather surrounded by nesting moorhens and secret sculptures among the willow trees. Okay, it was back to the boatyard to get her craned out again but still, the journey was lovely. ;)

It’s even a beautiful Spring day on land!

As I’ve been working on making my boat ready to live on, I haven’t had the chance to do much posting or blogging sadly. Sorry about that! I’m trying to catch up, I promise.

Though it’s a hectic time, I do love to travel and I can’t wait to watch for bluebells on this journey! If you are a photographer and interested in booking me for a woodland, riverside or any kind of Spring photoshoot then get in touch as soon as possible- I am a busy bee and only have the days listed below free:
April: 25th, 26th, 27th, 28th, 29th (Available anywhere)
May 5th (Available anywhere)
11th (Wales)
16th, 20th early-4pm (Dublin)
27th, 28th, 29th, 30th (Available anywhere)

I’m eagerly awaiting my new pair of New Rocks- I fell in love with them while modelling for the company in February (which was a modelling dream come true!) You’ll have to wait to see the boots in question but here are a couple of backstage pics…

My outfit (background photobombing courtesy of Amarantha LaBlanche, who I performed with later that night)

Ming The Merciless collar…

Spiky things picked up from the floor? Don’t mind if I do…

I found myself performing onstage in a special latex fetish show with Amarantha the latex goddess- bringing her to life from her shiny cocoon, then discovering I had bitten off more than I could chew! ;)
I hadn’t expected to do more than a fashion show that night, let alone anything bendy- so it was a nice surprise and good reminder that I love to perform onstage. (Hint hint… keep an eye out for exciting plans this year).


This one is by the lovely Maxime Avet- always fun to shoot with! :) Hair and make-up by me, all leather by New Rock clothing.

As I may have mentioned before, I draw things, paint and use chalk pastels as well. I am really happy to announce I am now taking commissions for pets, children, car, socks, anything! ;) If you or anyone you know would like a personalised hand-drawn picture by yours truly, please get in touch!
Fixing my boat has been a more than a little costly and it would be lovely if I could give you something in return for any generosity.
A5 pictures are £20 (and P+P)
A4 pictures are £30 (and P+P)

Here are some I made earlier… and of course I will post more when I am reunited with my sketchbook.





I have so many pictures to show you and so much to do so I’m going to sign off and leave you with a taster of what’s to come in my next blogs:
- I play a Maenad-like creature in an outfit of my own creation
- I visit the woodland with Pirate Photography and produce some of my favourite pictures yet…
- I play the submissive in leather
- I talk to Kinkly magazine about life as a fetish model
- I get terribly proper and have a chat about manners! Ooh-er! ;)

Have a wonderful day!


Show me that horizon…

21 Mar

If you didn’t read my Cloud Orchid interview, shame on you for you missed my news! :P
The reason I’ve been quiet recently (apart from all the travel) is that I have bought my very own houseboat and am in the middle of painting her and making her live-able. I’m being terribly indecisive about what colours she should be inside but the bathroom will most definitely be sea monster themed.
I know a couple of you have asked about boatwarming gifts, which is very kind of you- but I am only going to have 400 square feet so I’m waiting to live on board for a while before I start buying stuff. I have added one or two small bits to my wishlists because I can’t resist though. :P

I just cannot wait to have a kitchen and teeny herb garden and have been filling my Pinterest boards up with recipes and craft ideas. I will share any good ones with you of course. ;)

Though I have been crazily busy, I have jetted off to Amsterdam to model for Ardita Fetish Fashion at Dominatrix, which is my very favourite international event and I’m looking forward to seeing the pictures from the show! It was a first ever for me- I went blonde!
Here’s me with Miss Mandy from Sweden:
It was also my first fashion show where all the models had the same hair and make up. We were all badass fetish angels- look at our thorny crowns!!!

I then let my hair down (literally) for the afterparty- though next time I’ll wear something I can dance in! If you don’t know already, I am a goofy idiot, especially when I am confronted with very specific (and so very clearly illustrated) signs. :P

I spent the last day drinking tea and eating yummy cake with friends. Roll on next party- where I plan to enter the “Miss Fetish Europe” contest. You heard it here first!

So, last time I visited the North, I worked with Andy Greeneye, whose photographs look like paintings from a bygone era. We pooled our ideas and one of those ideas involved a mermaid-y creature. Pretty fitting for a pirate-in-training, I think!
The song “How I Became The Sea”, by Owl City was in my head the entire time this set was being shot. Although people are all debating what it’s about, to me it’s bloody obvious that it’s about a shipwreck. (Hopefully that won’t jinx my new home- “How I Became The Canal” doesn’t really have a ring to it) :P

“And then, when the Empress ran aground…

…and my eyes turned blue and green…

…I heard a gorgeous sound, and that’s when it became a dream.

When the sky fell in, when the hurricanes came for me…

…I could finally crash again, and that’s how I became the sea”

Though the song itself isn’t wonderful (with an unnecessary bleepy bit at the end), the chorus does give me the shivers. I’ve always been fascinated by the unseen world under the ocean and the old days of sailing when people actually thought you’d fall off the end of the earth if you sailed too far. You all know how much I love my nature documentaries, but a tiny part of me loves the idea of unidentified creatures being “sea monsters” sent by Poseidon from a barnacle-encrusted throne beneath the surface…

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Ship by Ruslan Eliseev. Polar bear by Paul Souders.

If you like ships and mystery and the stuff above, read “The Liveship Traders” trilogy, by Robin Hobb. I’ve just finished it for the second time. ;)

I have to get up early for boat stuff and it is wayyyyy past my bedtime. Speak to you soon!

LAST WORD: Thankyou, thankyou, THANKYOU to the lovely DeviantArt menber who was kind enough to buy me Premium membership! If you are reading this, a personal message is coming to you shortly. :)



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